Chisomo cha Atate
Ukoma wa atate sungagogomezedwe ndipo uyenera kuyamikiridwa ndi kuyamikiridwa konse.
Iye ndiye mzati wa banja ndi gawo lofunikira komanso losasinthika.
Bambo ali ndi luso lapadera lotsogolera mamembala a m'banja ku njira ya chipambano ndi kupita patsogolo.
Iye ndi munthu amene amatsimikizira mwa zochita zake kuti ali wokonzeka kupereka nsembe chifukwa cha chisangalalo cha banja lake ndi kukwaniritsa ziyembekezo ndi zokhumba zawo.
Bambo ali ndi udindo wofunikira pakulera ana ndi kukulitsa makhalidwe awo abwino ndi makhalidwe abwino.
Imawaphunzitsa malamulo a ulemu, chilungamo, ndi kuona mtima, ndipo imawalimbikitsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo m’moyo.
Bambo angakhale munthu wokhwimitsa zinthu nthawi zina, koma pamapeto pake amatero kuti akhazikitse maziko olimba kaamba ka ana ake kuti akule monga anthu okhwima maganizo ndi odalirika.
Bambo amasiyanitsidwa ndi kuleza mtima kwake kosatha.
Amanyamula udindo wa banja ndipo amalimbana ndi zovuta ndi zovuta mokhazikika komanso motsimikiza.
Bambo amaonedwa kuti ndi imodzi mwa mizati yaikulu imene imathandiza banja kulimbana ndi mavuto komanso kuthana ndi zopinga.
Bambo amagwira ntchito zolimba kuti apeze zofunika pabanja ndi kuteteza tsogolo lawo, ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri amakhala ndi maluso ndi zokumana nazo zofunika kwambiri zimene angauze achibale awo ndi kulemeretsa moyo wawo.
Ubwino wa atate umaonekeranso m’chikondi ndi chifundo kwa ana ake.
M’chenicheni, iye alidi wachikondi ndi wodekha, wosamala ndi wodera nkhaŵa za thanzi ndi chitonthozo cha achibale.
Kumawapatsa chichirikizo chamalingaliro ndi chauzimu chimene amafunikira m’nthaŵi zovuta.
Zimenezi zimathandiza kuti pakhale mgwirizano wolimba pakati pa anthu a m’banjamo komanso kuti banja likhale lolimba.
- Polingalira mbali zazikulu zonsezi, atate alidi maziko ofunikira a banja.
Atate ndi mtengo wopatsa
- Bambo ndi mtengo wopatsa umene nthambi zake zimatseguka nthawi zonse kukulitsa ndi kuteteza banja lake.
Bambo ali ndi malo ofunika kwambiri m’mitima ya anthu a m’banja lawo, chifukwa ndi amene amagwirizanitsa onsewo.
Bambo amagwira ntchito zolimba kuti apeze zofunika pa moyo ndi kuonetsetsa kuti banja lawo likhale losangalala.
Kuwonjezera apo, tate amapereka malangizo ndi chitsogozo kwa ana ake, ndipo amathandiza kukulitsa umunthu wawo ndi kukulitsa maluso awo.
Bambo ndi chitsanzo kwa ana, kuwaphunzitsa makhalidwe a khama, kudzipereka ndi kuona mtima.
- Bambo samangopereka chithandizo komanso wosamalira, komanso mphunzitsi ndi bwenzi.
Choncho, atate ndi mtengo wopatsa umene umazungulira anthu a m’banja mwachifundo ndi mwachifundo.
Kumalimbitsa maunansi abanja ndipo kumabweretsa chisangalalo ndi bata m’nyumba.
Chifukwa cha nyonga yake ndi mzimu wake wankhondo, atate amapereka chidaliro ndi chisungiko kwa mamembala a banja lake, ndipo ali mzati wamphamvu umene banja limadalira pa zovuta zonse za moyo.
Chotero, banja liyenera kuyamikira ntchito ya atate ndi kusonyeza chiyamikiro ndi chikondi kwa iye.
Tiyenera kusunga ubale wathu ndi Iye, kumuthandiza ndi kumuthokoza pa chilichonse chimene amatichitira.
Bambo ndi mtengo wosatha wa kupatsa, amakhala wokonzeka nthawi zonse kuthandiza anthu a m'banja lake, ndi nkhope yachifundo m'nyumba, gwero la nyonga ndi bata.
Ufulu wa atate ndi wotani pa mwana wake?
- Ufulu wa bambo pa mwana wake ndi wofunika komanso wopatulika mu Chisilamu.
1- Ulemu ndi kumvera: Mwana ayenera kulemekeza ndi kumvera atate wake ndi zisankho ndi malangizo amene amapereka.
Zimenezi zikuphatikizapo kumumvera ndi kutsatira malangizo ake popanda kuchita nkhanza kapena kutsutsa.
2- Chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro: Mwana wamwamuna ayenera kuthandiza ndi kuthandiza abambo ake pa zosowa zawo za tsiku ndi tsiku ndi kuwapatsa thandizo la ndalama ndi maganizo omwe akufunikira.
3- Chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro: Mwanayo ayenera kusamalira abambo ake, kutsimikizira chitonthozo ndi chisangalalo chake, ndikuchita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akwaniritse.
4- Chikondi ndi chikondi: Mwanayo ayenera kusonyeza chikondi ndi kuyamikiridwa kwa atate wake ndi kusonyeza chikondi chake ndi kuthokoza pa zomwe ampatsa moyo wake wonse.
5- Ulemu m’mawu ndi m’zochita: Mwanayo ayenera kukhala wanzeru ndi waulemu ndi kupewa mawu oipa kapena nkhanza kwa abambo ake, komanso kupewa kusamvera kapena khalidwe losayenera kwa iye.
- Mwachidule, kuyenera kwa tate pa mwana wake ndiko kumlemekeza, kumlemekeza, ndi kumvera iye, kusamalira chitonthozo chake ndi chimwemwe, ndi kumusonyeza chikondi ndi chiyamikiro.
- Kudzipereka ku ntchito zimenezi kumathandiza kukulitsa unansi wolimba ndi wokhazikika pakati pa atate ndi mwana wake ndi kupeza chisangalalo cha banja lonse.
Kulemekeza atate wake n’kofunika
"Kukhala wokoma mtima kwa abambo ako ndi ntchito" ndi mfundo yofunika kwambiri m'Chisilamu, chifukwa imakhudzana ndi ubale wa abambo ndi ana.
Kukoma mtima ndi chisamaliro kwa makolo kumaonedwa ngati milingo yapamwamba kwambiri ya kukoma mtima ndi chifundo imene ana ayenera kupereka.
Mu Chisilamu, kulemekeza makolo ndi chimodzi mwamaudindo omwe Mulungu Wamphamvuyonse adakhazikitsa kwa ana, kudzera mu malangizo achipembedzo ndi zolemba za Qur'an.
Chisilamu chimalemekeza ndi kulemekeza makolo ndipo chimalimbikitsa kuwachitira zabwino ndi kukoma mtima popanda chipukuta misozi.
Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti kulemekeza makolo ndi ntchito yokhayo yomwe imatsatiridwa ndi chilango chofulumira padziko lapansi, monga momwe zidanenedwera m’ma Hadith a Mtumiki (SAW) kuti chilango sichichedwa kwa amene samvera. makolo awo, koma m’malo mwake amalangidwa m’moyo asanafe.
- Kuonjezera apo, ana asamangosamalira makolo awo akakalamba, komanso azisamalira ndi kulemekeza abambo ndi amayi awo pa moyo wawo wonse.
Ana ayenera kuwongolera unansi wawo ndi makolo awo, ndi kuyesetsa kulemekeza makolo awo mwa kuwathandiza, kuwalemekeza, ndi kuwasamalira.
Kulemekeza makolo si ntchito yalamulo yokha, komanso ndi mzati wofunikira womanga anthu olimba komanso ogwirizana.
Kodi kudana ndi atate wako kumawonedwa kukhala kusamvera?
- Kudana ndi bambo ako sikoyenera, chifukwa kumaonedwa kuti ndi mchitidwe wonyansa m’malamulo a Chisilamu.
- Ufulu wa makolo kukhala okoma mtima ndi olungama ndi umodzi mwa maufulu ofunikira omwe wokhulupirira ayenera kutsatira.
- Kuthyola chibale ndi kusamvera kumatengedwa kuti ndi imodzi mwamachimo aakulu kwambiri ndiponso oopsa kwambiri, ndipo kumamulepheretsa munthu kulowa m’Paradaiso.
Tikamakamba za kudana ndi tate ndi maganizo oyipa pa iye, tiyenera kumvetsetsa kufunikira kwa ubale wapabanja ndi ulemu kwa makolo mu Chisilamu.
Zatchulidwa m’ma Hadith olemekezeka kuti ubale wa mayi uli pamaso pa tate, ndikuti kulemekeza makolo ake n’kofunika kwa mwana aliyense wamwamuna ndi wamkazi.
Choncho, ngati mukuona kuti n’zovuta kukonda ndi kulemekeza atate wanu, muyenera kuyesetsa kukonzanso unansi wanu, kuti musakhale osamvera Mulungu.
- Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri zimene zinakufotokozerani vuto limeneli muubwenzi ndi atate wanu.Mavuto a abambo anu ndi amayi anu ndi khalidwe lawo loipa kwa iwo mwina zinakukhudzani inu ndi kupanga udani kwa iwo.
Ngati mwakhumudwitsa atate wanu ndi zochita zanu kapena mawu anu, bwererani kwa Mulungu ndi kulapa chifukwa cha zomwe mwachita.
Kulapa kumatanthauza kulapa moona mtima ndi kutsimikiza mtima kusiya cholakwacho ndi kubwerera ku kumvera Mulungu.
Muyenera kuvomereza zolakwa zomwe munalakwitsa ndikupepesa kwa abambo anu, ndipo yesetsani kukonza zolakwa zanu m'tsogolomu.
- Mwachidule, simuyenera kudana ndi atate wanu ndi kuyesetsa kumanga ubale wabwino ndi iwo, ngakhale pakakhala mikangano ndi malingaliro a kupanda chilungamo.
- Muyenera kufunsira kwa Mulungu ndi kuyesetsa kulapa ngati mwamukhumudwitsa, ndi kuyesa kukonza ngati pali kusamvana pakati panu.
Ndani ali woyenerera kwambiri chilungamo, amayi kapena atate?
Kukoma mtima ndi ulemu kwa makolo ndizofunikira pamakhalidwe a Chiarabu.
Ufulu wa amayi wa chilungamo ukasemphana ndi ufulu wa atate wa chilungamo, malamulo achisilamu amalamula kuti mkanganowu uthetsedwe.
M’nkhani imeneyi, kuyenera kwa amayi ku chilungamo kuyenera kuikidwa patsogolo pa atate, monga momwe mayi ali woyenerera kukhala ndi mayanjano abwino ndi chilungamo kuposa atate.
- Mayi ali ndi udindo wapadera m'malamulo a Sharia, monga Msilamu ayenera kulemekeza makolo ake ndikuyanjanitsa kuwamvera ngakhale pakakhala kusamvana pakati pa ufulu wawo.
M’malamulo a Chisilamu, mayi amatsogola tate m’mbali zambiri, popeza kuti mayi ali ndi kuyenera kwa chilungamo chowirikiza katatu poyerekeza ndi tate.
Akatswiri a zamalamulo amavomereza kuti mayi amalandira magawo atatu mwa magawo atatu a chilungamo, pamene atate amalandira gawo limodzi mwa magawo anayi a chilungamo.
Izi zili choncho chifukwa cha ubwino ndi maudindo osiyanasiyana amene mayi amakhala nawo, monga kukhala ndi pakati, kubereka, kuyamwitsa, ndi kulera.
Tiyenera kukhulupirira kufunikira kolemekeza ndi kuyamikira makolo athu, ndikuyesetsa kupereka maufulu omwe amagwirizana mu malamulo a Sharia.
Kukachitika mkangano paufulu wa mayi ndi bambo, ufulu wa mayi wolungama ndi ulemu uyenera kutsogoleredwe ndi atate, popeza mayi ali ndi malo apadera m’malamulo a Sharia chifukwa cha ntchito yake yapadera pakulera ana ndi kuonetsetsa kuti ana awo ali ndi udindo waukulu. chitonthozo ndi chisangalalo.
Kodi nkololedwa kukhala kutali ndi makolo chifukwa cha mavuto?
Nkhani yoti munthu atalikirane ndi makolo ake chifukwa cha mavuto ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri yomwe imafuna kuphunzira mozama ndi kuunika momwe zinthu zilili m’banjamo komanso ubale wapakati pa ana ndi makolo.
Anthu angakumane ndi zovuta zina ndi zovuta m’kumvetsetsa ndi kuchitira zinthu ndi achibale, ndipo ena amadabwa ngati nkololedwa kwa iwo kukhala kutali ndi makolo awo chifukwa cha mavuto ameneŵa.
Kuchokera pamalingaliro azamalamulo, Chisilamu chimagogomezera kufunika kwa kulemekeza, kusamalira, ndi kulemekeza makolo.
Qur’an yopatulika ikufuna kulemekeza ndi kumvera makolo ake, ikunena kuti ndi ntchito yabwino yomwe imayandikitsa munthu ku chikhutiro cha Mulungu.
- Komabe, ndi bwino kugwirizana ndi makolo kuthetsa mavuto ndi kumvetsetsa, mwa kulankhulana momasuka ndi momasuka ndi kulingalira za zofuna za banja lonse.
Nthaŵi zina kungakhale kofunikira kupanga chosankha chochoka patali ndi makolo ake, monga ngati munthuyo akuchitiridwa nkhanza zakuthupi kapena zamaganizo kapena kusoŵa chisamaliro ndi chitetezo.
Pazifukwa izi, munthuyo ayenera kudziteteza ndikuonetsetsa kuti ali ndi chitetezo komanso chitonthozo cha maganizo ndi thupi.
Nkhani zoterozo ziyenera kuchitidwa mwanzeru ndi mwadala, ndipo munthuyo ayenera kukhala ndi chidziŵitso chokwanira cha thayo lopatsidwa kwa iye m’kumanga maunansi abwino ndi ofanana m’banja.
Anthu angathe kufunafuna chimene chili chabwino kwa iwo ponena za moyo wabanja ndi kukhala kutali ndi makolo awo malinga ndi mmene zinthu zilili pa moyo wawo, koma ngati sangavulaze aliyense wa iwo ndi kulemekeza mfundo zachipembedzo ndi zamakhalidwe abwino.
Ndi liti pamene nkololedwa kusokoneza bambo?
- Kunyanyala bambo n’kovuta m’zipembedzo ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana.
- Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zingakakamize munthu kunyanyala abambo ake ndi kukhalapo kwa chiwawa kapena nkhanza kumbali yake.
- Ngati tate akuvulaza mwakuthupi kapena m’maganizo kwa munthuyo kapena m’banja, munthuyo angasankhe kumunyanyala kuti adziteteze yekha ndi umoyo wake wamaganizo.
Nkololedwanso kudodometsa atate ngati palibe chisamaliro cha makolo kapena chisamaliro cha munthuyo kumbali ya atateyo.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati tate wasiya udindo wake waubereki ndipo sakusamalira banja kapena kupereka chitetezo ndi chitonthozo kwa anthu ena, munthuyo angakhale ndi ufulu womudula mawu.
Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti njira zothetsera mavutowa ziyenera kufunidwa musanagwiritse ntchito kusokoneza abambo, poyankhulana naye ndikuyesera kupeza njira zothetsera mavuto omwe alipo.
Poganizira mfundo ndi ziphunzitso za Chisilamu, ndi bwino kufunsa akatswiri a Sharia kuti mupeze fatwa pa nkhani inayake ndikuwona ngati ikufuna kuwanyalanya abambo kapena ayi, ndipo izi zimatengera momwe zinthu zilili komanso tsatanetsatane wa nkhani iliyonse.
Zindikirani: Chenjezo liyenera kuchitidwa pothana ndi nkhaniyi ndipo njira zogwira mtima komanso zoyenera ziyenera kufunidwa zomwe zimateteza ufulu wa aliyense, komanso motsatira malangizo achipembedzo ndi malamulo.
